Sunday, January 8, 2012

How to understand women



Women are complex creatures, sometimes frustratingly so. There are times when we make the men in our lives want to throw up their hands in defeat and say, "I'll just never understand what women want!"

Do not give up hope. Sometimes the key to understanding a woman is to read between the lines of what she is saying to discover what she really means.

It is not entirely our fault that we have this round about way of communicating. Men are taught from a young age that asking for what they want is the best way to get it, while girls are encouraged to use our "feminine wiles" to manoeuvre our way into what our heart desires.

It does not help that a straightforward persistent woman is often tagged with unfair labels like "bitch" or "ball breaker". So instead of being direct, we sometimes take the long way to getting to what we really mean.

When your girl complains about her long hard day, there is a good chance it's not just to get it off her chest. She wants you help her relax, but instead of just asking you for a back massage, or to run her a hot bath, she feigns helplessness so you will be able to sweep in as her man and fix everything for her.

It is sometimes hard for a woman to ask for help from her man. We all want to believe we can take care of ourselves, but there are times when we just want to be cuddled a little bit. Therefore, instead of being annoyed by her whining, do the smart thing and ask her what she needs to unwind.

You can tell something is bothering a woman, but when you ask she says nothing is wrong. Do not be fooled, she really does need to talk. She just wants you to press her a little. If you insist on asking what is wrong it convinces her that you really want to hear about her problems and help resolve them.

Try to encourage her to open up without nagging. Instead, let her know that you are concerned and open to listening. She really does want to tell you about the fight she had with her best friend or how much getting passed over for that promotion at work upset her, but unless you show genuine interest, she will probably keep it bottled up.

The only time this translation may not be accurate is when she is upset about something you did. In this case, she may really need some space and time to think before she confronts you with it.

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