Women are complex creatures, sometimes
frustratingly so. There are times when we make the men in our lives want to
throw up their hands in defeat and say, "I'll just never understand what
women want!"
Do not give up hope. Sometimes the key to
understanding a woman is to read between the lines of what she is saying to
discover what she really means.
It is not entirely our fault that we have
this round about way of communicating. Men are taught from a young age that
asking for what they want is the best way to get it, while girls are encouraged
to use our "feminine wiles" to manoeuvre our way into what our heart
desires.
It does not help that a straightforward
persistent woman is often tagged with unfair labels like "bitch" or
"ball breaker". So instead of being direct, we sometimes take the
long way to getting to what we really mean.
When your girl complains about her long
hard day, there is a good chance it's not just to get it off her chest. She
wants you help her relax, but instead of just asking you for a back massage, or
to run her a hot bath, she feigns helplessness so you will be able to sweep in
as her man and fix everything for her.
It is sometimes hard for a woman to ask for
help from her man. We all want to believe we can take care of ourselves, but
there are times when we just want to be cuddled a little bit. Therefore,
instead of being annoyed by her whining, do the smart thing and ask her what
she needs to unwind.
You can tell something is bothering a woman,
but when you ask she says nothing is wrong. Do not be fooled, she really does
need to talk. She just wants you to press her a little. If you insist on asking
what is wrong it convinces her that you really want to hear about her problems
and help resolve them.
Try to encourage her to open up without
nagging. Instead, let her know that you are concerned and open to listening.
She really does want to tell you about the fight she had with her best friend
or how much getting passed over for that promotion at work upset her, but
unless you show genuine interest, she will probably keep it bottled up.
The only time this translation may not be
accurate is when she is upset about something you did. In this case, she may
really need some space and time to think before she confronts you with it.
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